How to Give Hope
When you learn how to give hope, you can offer the most valuable gift there is.
Life is difficult. There are unexpected twists and turns, and it all begins as soon as you are born. There is only one real way to get through it all. You must have the will to move though it and an understanding that the future can be not just better, but great.
Being without hope not only makes someone feel badly, it can have a permanent affect on the foreseeable future. That is because a hopeless person won’t choose tasks that are challenging or offer an opportunity to grow and move forward. And, if they fail, they will quit. They won’t be able to have a better life. There is real science behind this—“hope is related to positive outcomes,” according to an article in Psychology today.
In other words, learning how to give hope to someone means you help someone accept the idea that they can work to make things better, rather than accept the ways things are.
How to Give Hope with a Coat
Hope often starts with knowing someone cares. This is especially true for children, families and communities who are struggling to see a successful future. When circumstances beyond their control leave them in want of basic necessities, it is natural for them to dream about things never being better.
When a child who has been facing winter without adequate protection, the cold not only seeps into their bodies, but into their heads as well. When they are very young, they may not understand why they have to be cold. After a while, studies tell us a child in need may suffer from self-esteem and accept that they will never know anything different. This is also true of children in poverty, who underestimate their own intelligence and capability, which then becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The Guardian examined the issue of the negative spiral of self-esteem and self-loathing.
Based on multiple reports, the most significant was released by Oxford University and the Joseph Rowntree Foundation. In reference to children in particular, The Guardian states, “Believing themselves to be fundamentally flawed, any achievement is tempered by a lack of confidence and subconscious self-loathing. This is also true of children in poverty, who underestimate their own intelligence and capability, which then becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.” If you are wondering how to give hope, you must also address it’s relationship to self esteem.
We believe that a brand new coat tells a child, “You’re worth it!” “You deserve something nice and new,” and “You deserve to be warm.” Many of these children literally jump for joy when they are told they can pick their favorite color. They get a glimpse of a future outside of their current and undeserved circumstances.
But the kids are not the only ones who get hope from a coat. We know this from the many thank you letters and messages from parents, teachers, school administrators, community leaders, coat-giving volunteers and anyone who has been touched by a donor’s gift of warmth and hope.
How to Give Hope in 2017
Many children are still waiting to get their coat and their hope this winter, and it isn’t too late to help. Now through the end of the year, your donation will be matched and every $20 will provide two coats to children who need them the most. Of course, we hope that you will find it in your heart to give a brand new coat to one of the children who are waiting. No child should go cold and no child should be without hope for a better future.